💌 Letters from the Soft Life: Is This Really My Man or Just Seasonal Tendences?

Dear Liberian Jewels,

I need some clarity. I’ve been seeing someone who’s warm, attentive, and incredibly present… sometimes. He checks in. He makes plans. He says all the things that make my heart lean in—like how safe he feels with me and how much he appreciates my energy.

But then? He disappears. Not for weeks, but just enough to make me second-guess what we are. The consistency isn’t consistent. It’s like he shows up when the weather’s good, or when life slows down.

I don’t want to call him a bad guy. I just don’t know if he’s my person—or if I’m his emotional winter coat for the chilly seasons.

Signed,
Low-Key in Love, High-Key Confused

Dear Low-Key in Love,

This letter is wrapped in every woman’s softest dilemma: when the vibe feels right, but the rhythm is off. Let’s unpack this with care.

First, let me affirm you: your heart is not confused—it’s just catching patterns your mind hasn’t labeled yet. You feel a shift, and you’re wise enough to ask questions before assigning blame. That’s emotional maturity, and it’s beautiful.

Now, let’s talk seasonal tendencies. Sometimes, people aren’t intentionally playing games—they’re just navigating their own seasons. Life gets heavy. Emotions come in waves. But when someone dips in and out of your life like a summer breeze, you’re allowed to ask: Is this real connection, or just comfortable timing?

Because sis, affection without consistency is just charm dressed up in cozy socks. It feels warm—but it won’t keep you through the storms.

Softly,

Liberian Jewels